There is always a hesitancy in listing resources that might be helpful in navigating the myriad of issues surrounding same-sex attraction, homosexuality, and gender identity issues. Because each resource is written by a different author with a unique viewpoint, the themes and opinions in each will, of course, be varied. Typically, you may find that there are few resources that you will totally agree with. And then there will be others which you may generally disagree with, but nonetheless will find helpful information that will benefit you.
However, we do encourage you to not be afraid to read or view resources that don’t totally mirror your own views and beliefs. Doing that might allow you to “step into another person’s shoes” for a moment.
We have also included other books which do not specifically address issues surrounding homosexuality, but which we hope will be very beneficial to your journey down this path.
Having an open heart and a teachable spirit, accompanied by a sincere willingness to listen to another person’s story, will go a long way in helping you understand complicated issues. Moreover, and more importantly, listening and learning will aid you in becoming more loving and more compassionate toward those that have these unique life experiences. On more than one occasion, when sincerely seeking wisdom and understanding from the Lord, He “sent” a book or a podcast or another resource that proved to be a real help and a great blessing.
Having people in your life whom you love and who struggle with same-sex attraction or who are living their lives as gay-identified individuals or who are facing gender identity issues, can cause you great confusion, pain, and a lack of peace. We do hope that these resources will truly help you in your unique and challenging faith walk.
A Long Way Off by Kitti Murray
A Pastor’s Resource by The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender (see website below)
A War of Loves: The Unexpected Story of a Gay Activists Discovering Jesus by David Bennett
Biblical and Pastoral Responses to Homosexuality edited by Andrew Goddard and Don Horrocks (Evangelical Alliance – UK)
Broken in the Right Place: How God Tames the Soul by Alan E. Nelson
Brokenness: How God Redeems Pain and Suffering by Lon Solomon
Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow
Come Back, Barbara by C. John Miller
Compassion without Compromise by Adam T. Barr & Ron Citlau
Costly Obedience: What We Can Learn from the Celibate Gay Christian Community by Dr. Mark A. Yarhouse
Disappointment with God: Three Questions No One Asks Aloud by Philip Yancey *
Does Jesus Really Love Me? A Gay Christian’s Pilgrimage in Search of God in America by Jeff Chu
Everybody Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People by Bob Goff
Ex-Gays? A Longitudinal Study of Religiously Mediated Change in Sexual Orientation by Stanton L. Jones & Mark Yarhouse
40 Days to Freedom: Prayers and Proclamations to Call Your Backslidden Children Into Their Destiny by Leonora Van Arsdale
Gay and Catholic: Accepting My Sexuality, Finding Community, Living My Faith by Eve Tushnet
Good Faith – Being a Christian When Society Thinks You’re Irrelevant & Extreme by David Kinnaman & Gabe Lyons
Grace by Philip Yancey *
Grace Truth 1.0 & 2.0 (also Small Group Leader’s Kit) by Preston Sprinkle (see website below) *
Grace Walk: What You’ve Always Wanted in the Christian Life by Steve McVey
Guiding Families of LGBT+ Loved Ones (Posture Shift – Lead Them Home – Bill Henson – see website below)
Holding On to Hope: A Pathway through Suffering to the Heart of God by Nancy Guthrie
Holy Sexuality and the Gospel by Christopher Yuan and Rosaria Butterfield
Homosexuality and the Christian: A Guide for Parents, Pastors, and Friends by Dr. Mark Yarhouse
Homosexuality, the Bible, and the Church by Preston Sprinkle
Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted by Ron Citlau
I’m So Glad You Told Me What I Didn’t Wanna Hear by Barbara Johnson *
Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry
It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered by Lysa TerKeurst *
Jesus Outside the Lines: A Way Forward for Those Who are Tired of Taking Sides by Scott Sauls
Let Go: Live Free of the Burdens All Women Know by Sheila Walsh *
Life of The Beloved: Spiritual Living in a Secular World by Henri J. M. Nouwen *
Listening to Sexual Minorities: A Study of Faith and Sexual Identity on Christian College Campuses by Dr. Mark Yarhouse
Living in a Gray World by Dr. Preston Sprinkle
Love Does by Bob Goff
Love First: Ending Hate Before it’s too Late by Don McLaughlin
Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual, and The Church by Peter Hubbard
Love is an Orientation: Elevating the Conversation with the Gay Community by Andrew Marin (also see 6 session DVD and study guide)
Loves God Likes Girls by Sally Gary (see website below)
Loving My (LGBT) Neighbor: Being Friends in Grace & Truth by Glenn T. Stanton
Loving Your Rebellious Child: A Survival Guide for Parents of Prodigals by H. Norman Wright
Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others without Sacrificing Conviction by Caleb Kaltenbach (also see 4 week small group study by City on a Hill)
Morality: Does it Matter How We Live? A Christian View of Morality by Dick Tripp
My Name is Hope: Anxiety, Depression, and Life after Melancholy by John Mark Comer
Next Christian by Gabe Lyons
Onward: Engaging the Culture without Losing the Gospel by Russell Moore
Openness Unhindered by Rosaria Champagne Butterfield *
Out of a Far Country by Christopher & Angela Yuan
Parenting Prodigals: Six Principles for Bringing Your Son or Daughter Back to God by Phil Waldrep
Parents in Pain: Overcoming the Hurt and Frustration of Problem Children by John White
Pastoral Papers by various authors – The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender (see website below)
People to be Loved: Why Homosexuality is Not Just an Issue by Dr. Preston Sprinkle
Prayers for Prodigals: 90 Days of Prayer for Your Child by James Banks
Praying for Your Prodigal Daughter: Hope, Help & Encouragement for Hurting Parents by Janet Thompson
Praying Our Loved One Home by Pam Lanhart
Prodigals and Those Who Love Them: Words of Encouragement for Those Who Wait by Ruth Bell Graham
Same-Sex Attraction and the Church: The Surprising Plausibility of the Celibate Life by Ed Shaw
Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents by Allison Bottke
Sexual Authenticity: An Intimate Reflection on Homosexuality and Catholicism by Melinda Selmys
Sexual Identity & Faith: Helping Clients Find Congruence by Dr. Mark Yarhouse
Single Gay Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity by Gregory Coles
Space at the Table: Conversations between an Evangelical Theologian and His Gay Son by Dr. Brad Harper & Drew Harper
Spiritual Friendship by Saint Aelred of Rievaulx – translated by Lawrence C. Braceland
Spiritual Friendship: Finding Love in the Church as a Celibate Gay Christian by Dr. Wesley Hill
Stranger God: Meeting Jesus in Disguise by Richard Beck
Streams in the Desert: 366 Daily Devotional Readings by L. B. E. Cowan & Jim Reimann
The Art of Divine Contentment by Thomas Watson *
The Broken Way: A Daring Path into the Abundant Life by Ann Voskamp
The Four Loves by C. S. Lewis
The Gift of Pain: Why We Hurt & What We Can Do About It by Philip Yancey
The Grace of God by Andy Stanley *
The Hope of a Homecoming: Entrusting Your Prodigal to a Sovereign God by Brendan O’Rourke
The Hurting Parent by Margie M. Lewis *
The Inner Voice of Love: A Journey Through Anguish to Freedom by Henri J. M. Nouwen
The Knowledge of the Holy by A. W. Tozer
The Prodigal God by Tim Keller
The Prodigal Prophet by Tim Keller
The Quest by Beth Moore *
The Ragamuffin Gospel: God News for the Bedraggled, Beat-Up, and Burnt Out by Brennand Manning
The Return of the Prodigal Son by Henri J. M. Nouwen *
The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert: An English Professor’s Journey into Christian Faith by Rosaria Champagne Butterfield
The Shack by William P. Young *
The Storm Inside: Trade the Chaos of How You Feel for the Truth of Who You Are by Sheila Walsh *
The Truth Comes Out: The Story of My Heart’s Transformation by Nancy Heche
Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays vs. Christians Debate by Justin Lee
Triage by Mike & Stephanie Goeke
Two Views on Homosexuality, the Bible, and the Church by Dr. Preston Sprinkle
Unarmed Empire: In Search of Beloved Community by Sean Palmer
Unchanging Witness: The Consistent Christian Teaching on Homosexuality in Scripture and Tradition by Don Fortson and Rollin GramsTwo Views on Homosexuality, the Bible, and the Church by Dr. Preston Sprinkle
unChristian: What a New Generation Thinks About Christians and Why it Matters by David Kinnaman & Gabe Lyons *
Understanding Gender Dysphoria: Navigating Transgender Issues in a Changing Culture by Dr. Mark Yarhouse
Understanding Sexual Identity by Dr. Mark Yarhouse
Us vs. Us: The Untold Story of Religion and the LGBT Community by Andrew Marin
Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality by Dr. Wesley Hill *
We Cannot Be Silent by R. Albert Mohler, Jr.
What Does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality? by Kevin DeYoung
What Good is God? In Search of a Faith That Matters by Philip Yancey
When God Interrupts: Finding New Life Through Unwanted Change by M. Craig Barnes
When You Love a Prodigal: 90 Days of Grace for the Wilderness by Judy Douglass (see her website below)
When Your Child Breaks Your Heart: Help for Hurting Moms by Barbara Johnson
Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey
Why I Don’t Call Myself Gay: How I Reclaimed My Sexual Reality and Found Peace by Daniel C. Mattson
You Are Not Alone: Hope for Hurting Parents of Troubled Kids by Dena Yohe
Your Church is Too Safe: Turning the World Upside Down by Mark Buchanan
- Sex, Gender, and Transgender Experiences – Multi Part Series
- A Biblical Conversation About Transgender Identities
- A Glimpse into When You Love a Prodigal: A Long Way Off
- What Pronouns Should Christians Use for Transgender People?
- The Truth About Relinquishment
- At Wits’ End
- Ministry That Helps – Parts 1 & 2
- Must We Be Hurt Deeply to Be Used Significantly?
- When Trouble Comes: Phil Ryken’s Personal Testimony
- An Open Letter to Those Suffering from Depression
- Depression: Fighting Dragons
- In U.S. More Adults Identifying as LGBT
- Atheism Doubles Among Generation Z
- Parable of the Lost Sheep
- The Parable of the Lost Sheep: A Closer Look
- Stubborn Pride
- Pride Humbled
- Pride Forgets
- Pride Deception
- The ‘Trans’ Child as Experimental Guinea Pig
- I Begged God to Make Me Straight & He Never Answered. Here’s Why
- Barna poll: Gen Z is the most ‘post-Christian’ generation in US history
- The Five Stages of Grief for Parents of LGBT Children
- Is it Possible to be Too Broken to Be Redeemed?
- Is Filling That ‘God-Shaped Hole’ God’s Plan for Our Lives?
- Our Identity – The Christian Alternative to Late Modernity’s Story
- Is Homosexuality Worse Than Other Sins? 3 Reasons Why This Isn’t the Case
- What Does it Mean that God is with Us?
- What Does Omnipresent Mean?
- The Problem with “Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner”
- Morality: Does it Matter How We Live? A Christian View of Morality
- My Swaddled Savior
- Why Would God Leave the Ninety-Nine?
- Pouring Out Your Heart in Lament to God
- God’s Promise for the Disappointed
- Why Am I Disappointed In God?
- God on the Other Side of a Shipwreck
- Homosexuality and the Church Leadership Crisis
- 10 Things You Should Know about Suffering
- 10 Things You Should Know about Shame
- A Spiritual Homecoming for LGBT People?
- Same-Sex Relationships: Should We Just Agree to Disagree?
- Portion of Sermon Transcript from July 31st, 2016 Living in the Tension
- Mike Rosebush: A Minister to Gay Christian Men
- Preston Sprinkle of the Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender
- The Debate about Same-Sex Marriage is Not a Secondary Issue
- Small Groups Anonymous: Why the best church small groups might take their cues from the Twelve Steps.
- First man recognized as ‘nonbinary’ in US regrets taking hormones, warns against trans ‘sham’
- Is Christianity harmful to sexual minorities? Ex-lesbian says no, it’s an ‘invitation to true love’
- I Used to Hide My Shame. Now I Take Shelter Under the Gospel.
- What Should Pastors Know About Generation Z?
- Can Anger at God Be Righteous?
- The LGBTQ Issue
- Celibate Gay Christians: Neither Shockingly Conservative nor Worryingly Liberal
- What Does Love Look Like?
- Thoughts on Revoice, Unnecessary Division, and the PCA
- Resisting the Idol of Sexuality
- The Two Things We Must Say About the Transgender Debate
PODCASTS, BLOGS, ARTICLES, AUDIOS, WEBSITES & CONFERENCES
Those Prodigal Sons: Two Lost Sons and Their Father’s Heart by Doug Greenwold www.preservingbibletimes.org/complimentary-articles-for-download/
The Table Podcast – Issues of God and Culture – Dallas Theological Seminary https://voice.dts.edu/tablepodcast/
The Grace of God an audio series by Andy Stanley
What God is Really Like an audio series by Pastor Clark Whitten
Practical Grace: How the Gospel Transforms Character an audio series by Dr. Timothy J. Keller
Lead Them Home (www.leadthemhome.org). This is a really wonderful organization that is ministering to churches, pastors, lay leaders, parents, and family members. They also have a special call to reach out to LGBT+ individuals, within and outside of the church. Bill Henson is the Founder and President. Check out all they have to offer, which includes various publications and video and audio resources.
The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender (www.centerforfaith.com). Dr. Preston Sprinkle is the Founder, President, and the moving force at the Center for Faith. There is so much for you to see and read on this website. Dr. Sprinkle conducts Leaders Forums all over the U. S. These Forums address in such an amazing fashion most of the cogent issues. Online courses are also available. One of the most helpful resources are the significant Pastoral Papers written by Preston and others. They focus on many of the hot-button topics.
CenterPeace (www.centerpeace.net). Sally Gary, a law-school educated woman who has struggled with same-sex attraction, is the founder of CenterPeace. She is a great communicator and speaks from the perspective of one who has dealt with the issues of same-sex attraction on a personal basis. The focus of this ministry is to help church leaders, educators, and families better understand issue impacting LGBTQ+ people and open conversations about faith and sexuality. Ministers in the Dallas area to parents and LGBTQ+ people.
Spiritual Friendship: Musings on God, Sexuality, Relationships (www.spiritualfriendship.org). Started by Dr. Wesley Hill and others, Spiritual Friendship is an online community of individuals who experience same-sex attraction or identify as gay and who are pursuing a chaste life. Great articles and resources.
Sexual & Gender Identity Institute (www.sexualidentityinstitute.org) Founded by Dr. Mark A. Yarhouse. Dr. Yarhouse is a powerhouse scholar and author on all subjects LGBTQ+.
Evangelical Man, Same-Sex Attraction (www.mikerosebush.com). Dr. Mike Rosebush has a PhD in counseling psychology and is a licensed professional counselor. Mike has struggled with same-sex attraction and counsels specifically males dealing with the same issue. In his wonderful blog article, The Real Me, he says: “I now self-identify as a “Side B gay Christian” – someone who has committed his entire life over to Jesus; has same-sex attraction; and believes in the traditional Biblical sexual ethic and sanctity of marriage. I am an evangelical: I revere the Bible and want others to know the immense love that Jesus has for them.
My beloved wife and best friend died of cancer in 2017; I am now living-out my God-given calling of celibacy – it fits me quite nicely. I have been privileged by God to have been a vital source of support to literally hundreds of men.”
Hole in My Heart Ministries (www.himhministries.com). Laura Krieg is the founder of HIMH Ministries. Their Mission is to equip Jesus-followers with a gospel-centered approach to sexuality. Its vision is to see the Church become a safe place that cultivates wholeness and holiness for people wrestling with issues related to sexuality. Wonderful blogs and podcasts.
EQUIP (www.equipyourcommunity.org). The mission of EQUIP is to help churches become places where LGBT+ Christians could belong and thrive according to a traditional sexual ethic. EQUIP’s vision is for the Church to become a place where children hear their parents and pastors talk about same-sex attraction in theologically accurate and compassionate ways … so that when, in late elementary school or early middle school, some children realize they are attracted to other boys and girls of the same sex, they no longer respond with shame, fear or hiding. Instead, EQUIP desires for them to share with their parents and pastors because they have heard that God still loves them and has good things for them.
Hope for Hurting Parents (www.hopeforhurtingparents.com). Founded by Tom and Dena Yohe. This is one of the very best websites with lots of resources and blogs. It provides unique help for parents of those dealing with LBGTQ issues with particular emphasis on suicide, substance addiction, self-harm, and mental illness.
Desert Stream Ministries - Living Waters Discipleship/Healing Program (www.andrewcomiskey.com & www.desertstream.org) This ministry was founded by Andy Comiskey over 20 years ago. Living Waters is an in-depth, Christ-centered program for people seeking healing in areas of sexual and relational brokenness. Their goal is to lay a foundation for sexual and relational wholeness. The ministry focuses on those struggling with homosexuality, sexual promiscuity, the effects of sexual abuse, codependency, self-hatred, or the inability to love others well.
Al-Anon (www.al-anon.org). This first class support group came out of AA and is for those who have loved ones addicted to alcohol. Its main focus is to come alongside those whose lives have become unmanageable as a result of out-of-control lives of those they love.
Fresh Hope (www.freshhope.us). This is a Christian association of peer-to-peer led support groups across the United States for those who have a mental health diagnosis and for their loved ones. They offer a curriculum to help others start support groups offering real hope and real help. Endorsed by Rick Warren and Saddleback Church.
Mercy Multiplied (www.mercymultiplied.com). Providing hope and healing to desperate young women who are seeking freedom from life-controlling issues such as: Physical & Sexual Abuse – including Sex Trafficking, Eating Disorders, Self-Injury, Drug & Alcohol Addictions, Depression and Unplanned Pregnancy.
Judy Douglass (www.judydouglass.com). A wonderful prayer warrior whose goal is to come alongside mothers whose children have strayed from the Lord. She has also written quite a few eBooks which you can download online.
Living Hope Ministries (www.livehope.org). A non-profit, non-denominational, 501(c)3 organization whose mission is to proclaim God’s truth for those who seek sexual and relational wholeness through a more intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. They provide free in-person support groups, one-on-one pastoral counseling and mentoring, online support forums, in addition to education and training for the local church and community in the U.S. and worldwide.